My friend, your friend, and the backstabber
Today on Fantastic Discoveries: My friend, your friend, and the backstabber
Today I am going to reveal to you the reasons why we have a hard time determining who are true friends and who are backstabbers. I know we all have been backstabbed once or twice in our life and the feeling wasn’t one we wanted to feel again. With all of the technology we have it's hard for us to remember to call people, or to actually walk out the door to put some effort into our friendships. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat make us feel important if particular people like our statuses, or if particular people message us. My first advice to you is to go out and actually meet your friends at least once a week to learn who your true friends are. I can babble on about how much I hate social media as a way of making friends but I’ll just focus on how even if your friends are miles away there are things they can do to show true value as a friend. Yes there are values to friendship.
If you want to be a great friend, or have a great friend show some empathy to the person. Our world tends to focus more on pretending to not have feelings. I mean friends with Benefits is based on the idea of having no feelings for each other in terms of caring. In fact, I think some friendships can feel less like a friendship and more like a give and take. However, no one discusses their problems with each other, and if they did discuss their problems the world would open up. It’s not a bad idea to share your problems with someone even if it's just a friend. Sometimes the best thing we can do is try to listen to each other, or understand the problem. I enjoy the quiet moments with someone when I’m upset they just let me cry and talk about my problems. Sometimes it's the best thing for me to have happen.
My next piece here is that selflessness is one of the greatest aspects of friendships. A person who doesn’t just do something and then make you feel bad about it is not a good friend. A friend who makes you feel better about the situation or the reason you don’t have money is a keep. I believe we live too much in a social media craze where people only care about themselves. However, if we stop and treat our friends like we treat our pets we would see a better dynamic of friendships and less backstabbers.
Surround yourself with people who are different. I like my friend pool to be diverse with different backgrounds, different finances places, and different perspectives. The friend that backstabs you is the one closest to you who may have a lot in common with. In my experience, a close friend is one who may be the complete opposite of you but bonds with you regardless of the difference. Acceptance is key.
Lastly, surround yourself with a humorous person that can make anyone laugh. If they can make you laugh it is worth more than any amount of time wasted. Laughter is the key to happiness, and thus you have a true friend.
Anyways, the Backstabber is hard to figure out when you never who it could be. I had a friend who was backstabbed by a friend and it was interesting because the person is someone I would've never expected to do it. I think if you go into a friendship headon and being loyal the person will have less of a temptation to backstab. What do you think?