Society of Victim blamers
We live in a society of victim blamers who tend to sue for anything that someone does to them. Victim blaming has been in rape, terrorist attacks, and acts of horror everywhere. If a woman can blame a man for rape than a man should be able to blame a woman for rape. However, society is like a one sided blade and men are often on the dull side. In rape cases, we have seen so many cases where the woman claims rape, has the proof, and the man goes to jail. But when have we seen rape from the opposite lense? Men are more afraid to admit that a woman was capable of taking advantage of them that they tend to keep their mouths hard wired shut. Our society makes it alright for women to play victims and point at men for rape. This blame game creates a very tough situation for men. Men have to fear that even if they get consent the woman can claim rape and be believed over him.
Victim blaming is a natural part of society when it comes to crime. A man who sets a house on fire won’t take blame but will blame someone else. But if the man was in the house when it was burning people would immediately blame him for the fire starting. The problem here is with the idea that people believe what is happening them is deserved. In fact, it develops the idea that people deserve the outcome, and consequences that they get. I wonder if it makes sense then why men are so against admitting they could be raped. Victim blaming is a vicious cycle as people are quick to blame others as a way to protect themselves, or to make them feel like bad things will never happen to them. I am sad to break the news but bad things happen to everyone.
I think a side to rape that needs to be discussed is the men’s side. Not the men’s side where the man ...- Oh am I victim blaming here? What I should say is that I am here to make the case for all the men who stood quite watching females being able to be open about rape while they had to zip their lips. So let’s uncover the possibility of rape for men. Yes. It is possible for men to be raped even if it is extremely difficult to find proof for it in a society that requires concrete proof. You would think with snapchat, instagram, and all these other social media accounts we would be able to uncover scenarios where men are being raped. But most men who are raped are not recorded being raped unlike women. Women are highly sexualized in our culture which means it's no surprise they get video taped while being raped- victim blaming again. What I mean is that women can’t stop men from videotaping the rape but why is there video of it in the first place?People would be quick to assume the women agreed to it but it's rape and agreement is not in the definition.
Let me get back to the men’s view here for a minute. People will be quick to say a man can’t be overpowered by a women and thus its nearly impossible to rape a man. But do they realize that there are women who work out that can lift twice their own weight? Perspectively, Men wake up in the morning with a natural hard on that mother nature gave them. ( No its not cause you lady’s are sexy but believe me they will try to convince you it is.) It’s really just mother nature. So, if a woman notices a man sleeping next to her, and rides on his groin without his consent that is rape essentially. However, will the man mention he didn’t want it? Or will he just take it and not complain? Or even if it complains will the women ignore it? It’s sexist that men are thought to rarely say no to sex thus people believe they are not raped. Men are raped but have a habit of being quit because society is quick not to believe their words. Men can be raped by other men as well and another man can be overpowering.
I mean what is even rarer is a woman going to jail for committing a rape. So I ask you what is your stance on this matter? Do you think like me the rape blame should be fair and that we as a society need to stop blaming the victim for problems?
From the words of my brother " Anyone can get raped..its just in our society you ladies are more likely to get attention from it for being victims than activists."